When intense emotions flood our systems, there is a tendency to tense up. Often we go into a fight mode to try and protect ourselves or our interests. We push away what we perceive as threatening. Sometimes we feel overwhelmed and we shut down. We analyze. We judge. We label. We make them wrong. We make ourselves wrong. We try to re-establish our footing any way we can. Often, though, the best thing we can do in the moment is to slow down, take a breath (or two or three) and become present.

Since most of us are conditioned to blame our emotions on someone or something outside of ourselves (as in “you make me feel….”), it can seem counterintuitive to pause and remind ourselves that while our minds are trying to guide us and protect us, our bodies are trying to communicate with us. 

How do we want to respond to this moment? Do we want to continue doing what our conditioned (and often defended) minds are telling us to do? Or do we want to bring conscious choice and presence to the moment? It’s difficult to see that our habitual reactivity and practiced thought pattens are often getting in the way of what we are striving so hard to achieve. 

There are many ways, I am sure, to handle every situation. The one that interests me the most is the one where we pause and turn our attention toward ourselves first. 

Most of us (myself included) need support to be able to metabolize the experiences and emotions that have gotten stuck in our bodies.  We need support to transform our reactive patterns and to grow our capacity for bringing in-the-moment awake aware presence to ourselves and others.  This is not hardwired into our systems.  And it’s not something we learned in school or from our society. Likely, we have received messaging that our emotions are problematic or that they are something to be fixed or suppressed or that they get in the way of living a successful life.  Yet, the truth is – our emotions are an integral part of our humanness. It is when we create spaces to become more conscious of our inner life, and our inner light, when we begin to relax rather than constrict, and when we cultivate trust in the wisdom of our bodies, that we become more capable of creating better approaches to our social and ecological challenges. And, with the right tools, the right kind of support, and a willingness to pause and attend to our inner world, we can begin to loosen the knots that are keeping us stuck, individually and collectively.  We can reclaim and begin to grow our true human collective potential. 

Are you in a painful dynamic with a family member?

Are you in a stuck place? 

Are you working to create a life in alignment with your values?

Would you like support and accompaniment in working with your habitual reactivity and your emotions?

Would you like to open up some inner space for the revealing of your own deep wisdom and clarity?

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